It sucks when you argue with a friend. A friend of mine interviewed for a job with my company like 2 years ago and she didn't get it. According to various sources, she demanded too much money, she was snotty in the interview, whatever. For that amount of time I have tried to avoid her questions about why she didn't get the job. But she often brings it up. She actually HATES the girl who did get the job even though they have never met. The funniest part is she went on to find a better job. She is about to be promoted. It is probably the best thing that she didn't come work with me. But she's so bitter.
Well last night -- there was beer involved --- she started on it again. She started insulting people at my job who are close friends of mine -- well, one in particular. And then she went on to say that no one likes my company, we all have a bad reputation. I lost it. I tried to stay calm. I said, "Why can't you let it go? Your life turned out so much better than it would have if you came to work with us." But it was like she wanted me to understand that not only did she not get the job because she was TOO GOOD for us but that we suck. Maybe I shouldn't have taken it personally but I have been a good friend to her. I take my job seriously. I work hard. It was just too much.
Anyway, I walked out. Not before telling her that I could probably list a lot of people who thought she sucked at her job, too. But what would be the point?
I think this is the end of our friendship, at least for a while. And I feel like crap today. This is worse than a hangover. I hate fighting with my friends. I felt like I was backed into a corner and all she wanted to do was to hurt my feelings, like she wanted to expunge her embarrassment by making me feel like shit. And I took the bait and that pisses me off.
I would love to be one of those people who can't be goaded.
Ah well, tomorrow is another day. Thank God I have a lot of friends.
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